imploding or plain self destruction?

I have been reading and commenting in another's blog, the person is having an apparent struggle with memories of an affair they had.

When I used to be an active first-aider, one of the first things we were taught is "move the patient from the danger, or move the danger from the patient" . To a point they have done this physically they changed jobs, the other party being a worker at that place. However mentally they are still there, they by their own statements dwell on it day and night.

I know they have other issues to deal with but that's the main stumbling block as I see it. They say their wife hates them, I don't think she hates him per se, I think she hates the guy he has become, or is becoming.

Change is hard and forgiveness even harder, but without a deliberate and concerted effort together the other woman out of ones mind and a total and unreserved forgiveness from both parties in this marriage, I cannot see it going anywhere but down.

We in our marriage have had our ups and downs too, we have come close to breaking up on a couple of occasions due to various issues, but we survived them and in the surviving grew stronger together.

I know the required change is gonna be painful, almost like major surgery without an anesthetic, but it must be done if there is to be a chance for survival here.

Otherwise all I can see is an implosion.

friendships never last for ever

I haven't posted much in this journal recently, reserving it for more serious thoughts than the usual useless drivel and banter I post in my "normal" blog.

But I think a lot. Mainly thoughts I keep to myself, like why do apparent friends suddenly stop being so? I am guilty of that also so I am not pointing fingers at any one in particular. We, my wife and I had a joint friendship with another couple that had gone on for years, and suddenly it stopped. we stopped phoning each other, or calling on each other, no particular reason except they moved house a couple of times and because of rising land prices have moved forther and further away from the city.

I wonder, did we or they just get bored or lazy? I know of at least one other blogger that feels that way about another they have been friends with for years, then suddenly silence.

My little bird is flying the coop

Well not so little any more, she being an adult and over 21, but she really is flying the coop. Flying the skies in fact, Wednesday morning 1 am our time, (thats 1 pm Tuesday USA Eastern time), she board a plane for UK and Europe, gonna be away 6 weeks.

This will be her 3rd trip over there, she is going alone, and intends to meet up with some of the friends she made while living over there for three years.

She is soccer mad also, so I think there is an intention of visiting Germany while the World Cup is on, she probably wont get to see any games live, but I gather that most venues will have large TV screens set up outside for the many fans who cannot get insid the stadium.

(On an aside, talking about large screens, my son just bought a 6 ft screen tv for his lounge room, its a wide screen format. I suggested he get some wide angle glasses to ensure they can see all the screen at once. Its enormouse).

Put downs?

Why is it that so many people seem to want to put them selves down in blogs? Call it self effacing, humility, insecurity, or what ever, why put yourself down?

I don't mean the kind of entry that is soul searching and usually leads to some kind of spiritual release for the blogger, I mean the "every body hates me", "I am nothing, nobody", "what a waste of space I am" kind of person. Don't they realise that when Jesus said these words:
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life..... that He was talking about them too? When He allowed himself to be crucified, he was dying for their sins too.

There are sufficient ill-willed, cranky, peevish people in the world (some even call themselves "christians"), to do the putting down for you, so why put yourself down?

Just give me a call I do the putting down for free........

blogophile

blogophobia: fear of losing your blog entries and comments

blogophile...1) one so affected
2) One who mollests blogs
3) One who is so affected by the sudden loss of a b log that they are so traumatised that they are incapable of speech, other than the uttering if a faint moan and a cry of desperation such as: "..... why does Queen of the Sky's journal direct me to this page?"

blogaholic: one affected by same disease as blogophile bit not quite so advanced.

blogaphobic: one who faints at the sight of a dead blog......

blogamanic: a troll

ballyhoo and hoola hoops

All the hyperventing and flagellation thats going on because j/s is down seems to be the most infantile thing on the planet.

So the site has had a major harddrive failure, it happens. So some folks, me included, will probably lose some comments and maybe the odd entry, so what, we can write another, yesterdays blog is yesterdays news anyway, who goes out and buys yesterdays newspaper?

But all this chest and maybe bosum beating, recrimination, accusation and name calling thats going on is pointless, I am sure that some soon to be 7 year old twins act more maturely. I refuse to join in their games and post in that mediocre forum. Not to mention the awful colour scheme it has.

Roll on Tuesday, I hope and trust that they at least get some og the site up and running just so those blogophiles can get their fix. If not, so be it, I'd rather it be fixed properly than to get it up with a jury rig, just to come crashing down again at the mere mention of Queen of the Sky.....

in a word or three

my wife and I like totally different movies, I like light comedies and some old war movies, and some cartoons (shrek, ice age etc).

She likes thrillers (I call them chillers) and heavy dramas (blood and guts stuff). There are other differences in our relationship, also, but we work through them and our marriage survives. When I read some blogs and the person is on the third or 4th relationship, and thinking about moving on again, I have to wonder why they keep trying. Maybe they dont try, maybe they have no intention of trying, it seems that its just so easy to change partners, almost like a dance- when the music stops, find a new partner. Eventually the dance will end and they will find they are out of partners and alone.